Stress is a part of life. Sometimes, it can even be a good thing. But, when you’re experiencing too much stress in your relationship, it can start to cause problems.
Maybe one of you is going through a difficult time. Maybe you both have different struggles. Or perhaps the stress is stemming from an issue in your relationship.
Whatever the case, learning how to handle stress as a couple can strengthen your bond. While it’s important to know how to deal with stress on your own, you can take those skills and work together in your relationship to be there for one another.
If you’re not sure how to come together and handle stress effectively, let’s look at a few helpful tips.
1. Remember You’re On the Same Team
It’s not uncommon for a stressful situation to make you feel you’re all alone. Or, you might feel like no one understands you and what you’re going through.
When you’re in a relationship, that makes it easy to “snap” at your partner or assume they don’t understand. That can lead to arguments and a lot of tension.
It’s important to remember that no matter what either of you is feeling, you’re on the same team. You want the same things, even if you may have different approaches to getting there. Your partner isn’t your enemy, and they’re not trying to make things harder for you.
When you start to look at things with that mindset, you’ll be more likely to open up, talk about what you’re dealing with, and come up with solutions together.
2. Be Adaptable in Your Roles and Routines
It’s not uncommon for couples to have daily routines, and even “roles” you fall into when you’re at home. You might not even realize it. But there’s probably someone who does the dishes each night, and someone who picks up the kids from school, etc.
If one of you is feeling exceptionally stressed, consider adapting those roles for a while. Or be willing to break away from your traditional routine if/when someone needs a break. The weight of a stressful situation can be exhausting, and trying to go through something as simple as your daily routine might become difficult.
You can handle stress better as a couple if the person dealing with stress is allowed a little breathing room. So, step up when it’s your time, and ask for help when you need it.
3. Stay Connected
When either of you is stressed, you might ignore the basic needs of your relationship. Practicing self-care and taking time for yourself is important. But it’s also a good idea to stay as connected as possible to the person you love.
You might not have the time or energy to give your relationship much attention. So, finding little ways to let your partner know you care, despite your circumstances, will make a big difference. Something as simple as leaving them a small note or holding their hand while you’re watching television in the evening can help.
If you’re trying to support your partner through a stressful situation, letting them know you’re there with small gestures is equally important.
No matter who is stressed or what’s causing it in a relationship, it doesn’t mean things have to be tense or tumultuous as a couple. Keep these tips in mind and work on handling stress together, rather than separately. You have a built-in support system when you’re in a relationship. That can make getting through a stressful time in your life much easier if you’re willing to lean on the one you love.