Dealing with out of control sexual behavior can be something that’s difficult to talk about. Beyond that, it can be something that’s difficult to admit— even to yourself.
But, it’s important to know the difference between those behaviors and sex addiction.
If you’re not sure what the differences are, you can start by clearly defining each issue. Often, out of control sexual behavior is a symptom of a greater underlying cause. Addiction is something very different.
With that in mind, let’s take a closer look at the two and how you can distinguish one from another.
What is Sex Addiction?
Sex addiction has become more prominent and problematic in recent years. While it certainly isn’t new, advancements in technology and access have caused it to become somewhat of a pandemic, all on its own.
Sex addiction is defined as a psychological condition in which an individual is unable to control their sexual desires and urges. For some, that might mean watching pornography for hours each day. For others, it means a need to actively participate in sexual acts as often as possible.
A sex addict tends to think the same way someone might if they were addicted to a specific drug—it’s all you think about, and you can’t wait until you get your next hit.
Unfortunately, sex addiction can ruin your life. It can cause you to withdraw from family and friends. It can damage your career and personal life. You become a victim, and the addiction itself becomes something you’re powerless against.
Understanding Out of Control Sexual Behavior
So, how does sex addiction differ from out of control sexual behavior?
Again, addiction is something that takes control of your life and leaves you powerless. But, you don’t need to be powerless to your own behaviors.
Instead, it’s important to find out what is driving those behaviors. It’s usually a “root cause” that hasn’t been addressed or an underlying issue that hasn’t been worked through.
For some people, that might include unhealthy relationships in the past, or even sexual abuse as a child. Those aren’t exactly pleasant things to think or talk about. Many people even try to repress those memories. But, digging them up and processing them is the best way to get your sexual behaviors under control.
When you’re able to do that, you can move toward sexual health. As a result, you’ll experience more fulfillment out of your sex life. You can grow in intimacy with your partner, and experience meaningful physical relationships, instead of giving in to urges.
How to Get the Help You Deserve
Now that you have a better understanding of the differences between sex addiction and out of control sexual behavior, you can take the necessary steps to deal with either.
If you’re struggling with your behaviors, reframing your thoughts can make a big difference and give you back the power you need to control your sex life and your actions. Beyond that, though, it’s important to understand that changing your behaviors isn’t always enough. You need to get to the root of the issue to really feel different. Otherwise, the “fix” is only temporary.
The best thing you can do is to seek help from a professional.
Opening up about your sex life or behaviors you’re embarrassed by isn’t easy. But, your motivating factor should be that you can take control once again.
You don’t have to be a victim.
You don’t have to assume your behaviors mean you have a sex addiction. The two are very different, and hopefully, that’s clearer to you now.
Most importantly, you don’t have to deal with this alone. Feel free to contact me to set up an appointment and take the first steps toward regaining control of your life.