Everyone wants to feel empowered. Feeling like you’re in control of your life, exuding confidence, and having high self-esteem—what could be better than that? There are plenty of ways to work on self-empowerment. From exercise to meditation, different techniques work for different people. But, have you ever considered how working on your sex life might help you feel more empowered? When you have a “dull” or even a negative sex life, it’s hard to feel strong and confident. You might not be doing anything wrong, but you also might feel like you’re not in full control of your body or feelings. So, what can you do to work on your sex life and feel more empowered than ever?
Talk About Sex
If you’re blushing a bit already, that’s could be a sign that it may be beneficial to explore and talk more about your sex life. Talk to your partner openly about what you want and how you’ve been feeling.
Sex doesn’t have to be something you should feel ashamed of or something embarrassing that needs to stay in the bedroom. You might find that the more open and honest you are about your sex life, the more confident you’ll be to speak up about your feelings in other areas of your life. You’ll also feel like you have a greater sense of control by expressing yourself and deciding to make necessary changes.
Learn More About Your Body
One of the best ways to feel more empowered is to love the skin you’re in. Feeling more confident in your body from head to toe will boost your self-esteem and assuredness. One way to help feel empowered in your body is to learn more about it. Getting curious and feeling more connected to it may help create understanding and appreciation for all that your body does for you.
Look at yourself in the mirror for a few minutes each day after getting out of the shower. What do you love about the way you look? What’s your favorite part of your body? Where do you like to be touched? Don’t be afraid to let your partner observe and explore your body, too, and be open with each other about the experience. Learning more about your body will help you learn more about yourself.
Be an Active Participant
Let’s face it, sex isn’t a spectator sport. If yours feels like it, it may be time for something to change. While it doesn’t have to speak negatively about your relationship, you might not be actively participating in sex the way you want because you’re dealing with a lack of empowerment.
When you choose to be an active participant, that will quickly change. Check in with yourself; are you more forward with your partner or are you feeling more reserved during intimacy? This might be linked to feeling self conscious or seconding guessing how you want to show up for your partner. One of the best ways to overcome those issues is to start that conversation with your partner, get to know what you like, and try different things together.
Talk to your partner and ask what you can do, and then take action. Play an active role in the bedroom, and you’ll quickly see how that carries over into other areas of your life. You may find that learning more about yourself and partner can help improve feeling empowered and shift dynamics in a positive direction.
Sex can be hard to talk about but, whether your sex life feels stagnant or you’re ready to feel more empowered, use these tips to build yourself up. Not only will your intimacy with your partner grow, and hopefully, so will your own confidence levels. If you or your partner are interested in learning more about how to connect with yourself and each other, Contact Us or read more about Couples Counseling and Sex Therapy.