Who doesn’t want the fairytale romance or to fall in love with someone and have it feel like a scene from a movie?
Some great loves can, indeed, feel that way. But the signs that you’ve found “the one” aren’t always as apparent as you might like them to be. You probably won’t see literal fireworks whenever they walk into the room as you might in the movies.
There are billions of people in the world. It can be challenging to buy into the concept that there is only one for you and every other person. But that belief doesn’t honestly matter. The fact is that some people are simply better suited for one another than others.
If you’re in a relationship, whether it’s new or you’ve been dating for a while, how can you tell if that person is really “the one?” The good news is, there are some signs you can look out for.
1. Things Are Easy
Every relationship takes effort and work. Things won’t always be perfect. But, overall, if your relationship tends to flow without much discord, it could be a sign that you’ve found the right person.
Do you understand each other’s points of view and perceptions, even if you don’t have the same ones? Do you rarely butt heads? That’s a good sign that you’re highly compatible.
2. You’re Comfortable
It’s normal to put your best foot forward when you first start dating someone. But what about when you get to know each other more and take a closer look?
Think about it. Have you always been able to be yourself around your partner? Do you feel calm and happy, and you know you won’t be judged for who you truly are? It’s a reliable indicator that they’re a good match for you.
3. You Think About Them … A Lot
When you’re genuinely in love with someone, it can change the chemical reactions in your brain. You’ll get bursts of dopamine whenever you’re around that person, causing you to feel happy and even euphoric. So, you’ll end up wanting those feelings even when your partner isn’t around.
As a result, you might find yourself thinking about them more often than not, allowing those jolts of dopamine to occur more frequently. When you think about being head-over-heels in love, this is probably exactly what you’re feeling!
4. You Become “We”
When you feel connected to a person, you’re more likely to change how you speak to other people, and the pronouns you use.
When you’ve found the one, you become a unit. You join together with such a strong bond that it’s hard to simply speak of yourself alone. And instead of saying “I,” you might find yourself saying “we” more often in everyday conversation.
5. You’re Both Willing to Work on Your Relationship
Again, no relationship is perfect. Even if you’re highly compatible and things are usually smooth, it’s natural to argue. In fact, it’s healthy to argue.
But people get into trouble when they argue intentionally to hurt their partner or the relationship itself. When you truly value your partner and your relationship, the goal of your argument should always be to become stronger together.
6. You’re Happy to Make Sacrifices
Have you typically considered yourself to be “number one” in your life, and now that’s changed? When you’ve found the right person, it’s reasonable to sacrifice things for them happily or for the sake of your relationship.
Maybe that means giving up a particular habit. Or perhaps it means moving away from friends and family because of their job. With “the one,” these sacrifices don’t feel unfair, because you’d do anything to help your partner.
7. They Are Your Biggest Supporter
One of the biggest keys to a strong, healthy relationship is supporting your partner’s dreams, ambitions, and goals.
If your partner is your biggest cheerleader (and vice versa), it’s a good sign you’ve found the right person for you. Even when everyone else may try to drag you down, that one person who believes in you can make the biggest difference in the world.
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The truth is, there’s actual science and psychology behind the idea of “the one,” as some of these signs suggest. But, many times, you can trust your gut when it comes to knowing if you’ve found your perfect match.
If you want to know more about how to tell if you’re with the right person or need more signs to look out for, feel free to contact me for information on couples counseling.
