The prospect of a new year is always exciting. It’s a time to reflect on the year you’ve been through while looking forward to new beginnings.
It’s also a time when many people set goals and make resolutions. While many New Year’s resolutions fail because of unrealistic expectations, there are some goals you can set for yourself now that are made to last.
That even includes resolutions you can set as a couple.
Even if you’re in a good spot in your relationship, doing things to strengthen your bond intentionally can make a big difference in how you feel, personally, and how you feel about your partner.
With that in mind, let’s look at some New Year’s resolutions couples can make to strengthen their bond.
Schedule a Weekly Date Night
This might seem simple, but so many couples that have been together for a long time don’t make “dating” each other a priority. That’s especially true for married couples or those who work long hours or have children with busy schedules.
Being busy is understandable. The world moves at a fast pace and demands a lot from everyone.
But, committing to one date night a week with your partner can make a big difference in your closeness. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the same day each week, but there should be some ground rules in place. The most important thing is to make sure you focus solely on each other. Don’t bring the kids along, don’t pull out your phone as a distraction, and don’t make small talk.
Going on weekly date nights can naturally make you feel closer, but it can also help to reignite the “spark” you felt for your partner at the beginning of your relationship.
Show More Gratitude
When was the last time you told your partner how much you appreciate them?
Aside from saying a quick “thank you” when they hand you a cup of coffee, when was the last time they knew how grateful you were for the things they do?
As a whole, people aren’t always great at expressing their appreciation. That’s especially true when you become comfortable and complacent with certain things.
But, a little gratitude goes a long way. By setting an intention to express your appreciation to your partner more often, you’ll show them how much you really value them. When you’re both sharing your appreciation, it’ll boost your mood and bring you closer.
Learn Your Partner’s Love Language
Chances are, you’ve heard of the five love languages before. But, not many people take the time to dive into them and learn more. You may not even know what your own love language is yet, let alone your partner’s.
Take the time to learn both this year. When you dive into the different love languages, you probably won’t be too surprised to learn about your own. But, your partner’s may surprise you. When you know what it is, you can take active steps toward showing them love in ways that speak to them. It’s amazing how much more connected you can feel when you both make the effort to focus on each other’s needs.
Practice Self-Care as Individuals
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
So, one of your resolutions as a couple should be to take care of yourselves individually. Find time each day to do something that relaxes you, even if it’s only for a few minutes. When you spend some time focusing on yourself, you won’t bring extra stress into the relationship. You may be less likely to be irritable or “snap” at your partner, and more open to healthy communication.
This year, while you’re making resolutions and anticipating a fresh start, consider setting some of these goals with your partner, and make it your best year ever! If you are wanting more information on couples therapy to strengthen your bond, please feel free to contact us to schedule your free consultation.